byJohnWesley

Selfconfidenceisthedifferencebetweenfeelingunstoppableandfeelingscaredoutofyourwits.Yourperceptionofyourselfhasanenormousimpactonhowothersperceiveyou.Perceptionisreality themoreselfconfidenceyouhave,themorelikelyitisyou锛llsucceed.

Althoughmanyofthefactorsaffectingselfconfidencearebeyondyourcontrol,thereareanumberofthingsyoucanconsciouslydotobuildselfconfidence.Byusingthese10strategiesyoucangetthementaledgeyouneedtoreachyourpotential.

1.DressSharp

Althoughclothesdon锛tmaketheman,theycertainlyaffectthewayhefeelsabouthimself.Nooneismoreconsciousofyourphysicalappearancethanyouare.Whenyoudon锛tlookgood,itchangesthewayyoucarryyourselfandinteractwithotherpeople.Usethistoyouradvantagebytakingcareofyourpersonalappearance.Inmostcases,significantimprovementscanbemadebybathingandshavingfrequently,wearingcleanclothes,andbeingcognizantofthelateststyles.

Thisdoesn锛tmeanyouneedtospendalotonclothes.Onegreatruletofollowisspendtwiceasmuch,buyhalfasmuch搂.Ratherthanbuyingabunchofcheapclothes,buyhalfasmanyselect,highqualityitems.Inlongrunthisdecreasesspendingbecauseexpensiveclotheswearoutlesseasilyandstayinstylelongerthancheapclothes.Buyinglessalsohelpsreducetheclutterinyourcloset.

2.WalkFaster

Oneoftheeasiestwaystotellhowapersonfeelsaboutherselfistoexamineherwalk.IsitslowtiredpainfulOrisitenergeticandpurposefulPeoplewithconfidencewalkquickly.Theyhaveplacestogo,peopletosee,andimportantworktodo.Evenifyouaren锛tinahurry,youcanincreaseyourselfconfidencebyputtingsomepepinyourstep.Walking25%fasterwillmaketoyoulookandfeelmoreimportant.

3.GoodPosture

Similarly,thewayapersoncarriesherselftellsastory.Peoplewithslumpedshouldersandlethargicmovementsdisplayalackofselfconfidence.Theyaren锛tenthusiasticaboutwhatthey锛redoingandtheydon锛tconsiderthemselvesimportant.Bypracticinggoodposture,you锛llautomaticallyfeelmoreconfident.Standupstraight,keepyourheadup,andmakeeyecontact.You锛llmakeapositiveimpressiononothersandinstantlyfeelmorealertandempowered.

4.PersonalCommercial

Oneofthebestwaystobuildconfidenceislisteningtoamotivationalspeech.Unfortunately,opportunitiestolistentoagreatspeakerarefewandfarbetween.Youcanfillthisneedbycreatingapersonalcommercial.Writea30-60secondspeechthathighlightsyourstrengthsandgoals.Thenreciteitinfrontofthemirroraloud（orinsideyourheadifyouprefer）wheneveryouneedaconfidenceboost.

5.Gratitude

Whenyoufocustoomuchonwhatyouwant,themindcreatesreasonswhyyoucan锛thaveit.Thisleadsyoutodwellonyourweaknesses.Thebestwaytoavoidthisisconsciouslyfocusingongratitude.Setasidetimeeachdaytomentallylisteverythingyouhavetobegratefulfor.Recallyourpastsuccesses,uniqueskills,lovingrelationships,andpositivemomentum.You锛llbeamazedhowmuchyouhavegoingforyouandmotivatedtotakethatnextsteptowardssuccess.

6.Complimentotherpeople

Whenwethinknegativelyaboutourselves,weoftenprojectthatfeelingontoothersintheformofinsultsandgossip.Tobreakthiscycleofnegativity,getinthehabitofpraisingotherpeople.Refusetoengageinbackstabbinggossipandmakeanefforttocomplimentthosearoundyou.Intheprocess,you锛llbecomewelllikedandbuildselfconfidence.Bylookingforthebestinothers,youindirectlybringoutthebestinyourself.

7.Sitinthefrontrow

Inschools,offices,andpublicassembliesaroundtheworld,peopleconstantlystrivetositatthebackoftheroom.Mostpeoplepreferthebackbecausethey锛reafraidofbeingnoticed.Thisreflectsalackofselfconfidence.Bydecidingtositinthefrontrow,youcangetoverthisirrationalfearandbuildyourselfconfidence.You锛llalsobemorevisibletotheimportantpeopletalkingfromthefrontoftheroom.

Duringgroupdiscussionsmanypeopleneverspeakupbecausethey锛reafraidthatpeoplewilljudgethemforsayingsomethingstupid.Thisfearisn锛treallyjustified.Generally,peoplearemuchmoreacceptingthanweimagine.Infactmostpeoplearedealingwiththeexactsamefears.Bymakinganefforttospeakupatleastonceineverygroupdiscussion,you锛llbecomeabetterpublicspeaker,moreconfidentinyourownthoughts,andrecognizedasaleaderbyyourpeers.

Alongthesamelinesaspersonalappearance,physicalfitnesshasahugeeffectonselfconfidence.Ifyou锛reoutofshape,you锛llfeelinsecure,unattractive,andlessenergetic.Byworkingout,youimproveyourphyscialappearance,energizeyourself,andaccomplishsomethingpositive.Havingthedisciplinetoworkoutnotonlymakesyoufeelbetter,itcreatespositivemomentumthatyoucanbuildontherestoftheday.

10.Focusoncontribution

Toooftenwegetcaughtupinourowndesires.Wefocustoomuchonourselvesandnotenoughontheneedsofotherpeople.Ifyoustopthinkingaboutyourselfandconcentrateonthecontributionyou锛remakingtotherestoftheworld,youwon锛tworryasmuchaboutyouownflaws.Thiswillincreaseselfconfidenceandallowyoutocontributewithmaximumefficiency.Themoreyoucontributetotheworldthemoreyou锛llberewardedwithpersonalsuccessandrecognition.